First Impressions

From the boardroom to the coffee shop, what you wear instantly affects how people judge you
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Illustration by Alanna Cavanagh

You rarely get a second chance to make a first impression. That’s because in less than a split-second, the brain processes visual input to the eye.

β€œSome may think it’s superficial to quickly evaluate based on visuals, but the reality is our brains are trained to do that,” says Patty Buccellato, a Rochester Hills-based image consultant who runs Refined Images.

Buccellato and others in her field contend that our verbal skills are flat lining while visual communications are evolving. β€œHow you dress creates an immediate reaction,” she says. β€œAnd reaction leads to image, which, if good, can lead to success,” in social situations or at work.

β€œYour clothing is your everyday billboard,” adds Patti Brock-Sklar, owner of Annabelle’s Couture in Royal Oak. β€œDressing should always be about what you feel you’re worth,” no matter the situation.

That goes for older individuals as well. β€œEven in retirement,” adds Linda Curry, a wardrobe/fashion consultant at Saks Fifth Avenue in Troy, β€œyou can — and should — stay true to yourself and your self-image, which in turn creates confidence through life.”

Judging a Book by a Cover?

Kris Puffer knows not to start the day without looking well put together. β€œIf you look the part, you become that part, not only to yourself but to others,” says the Rochester Hills-based sales consultant for Silpada jewelry. β€œPeople look at you in a different light when you are dressed well.”

Randy Engle, pastor at North Hills Christian Reformed Church in Troy, agrees. β€œOne of the best — and most succinct — pieces of advice I’ve ever received (from a Fortune 500 CEO) is that you get treated how you look,” he says.

Annie Frisch confesses that she frequently makes snap judgments. β€œShame on me for falling into that trap,” says the Lake Angelus resident. β€œIf I meet a person dressed as if she just stepped out of a Coldwater Creek catalog, I assume she’s conservative — not a risk-taker. If I meet someone dressed in J.Crew, I think sort of fun and hip.”

How you dress is especially important for job hunting. A 2013 β€œProfessionalism in the Workplace” study by Polk-Lepson Research Group notes that one of the best ways to not get hired is to wear inappropriate attire. The report notes the importance of appearance β€œgoes beyond the hiring process. It has an impact on the perception of one’s competence.”

That applies to all age groups, says Brian Coury, who owns two Grosse Pointe-area TCBY stores. He hires 20 to 30 high school and college kids a year. β€œOur managers know in less than 10 seconds if they are going to call an applicant back,” he says. β€œIf someone is dressed sloppily or inappropriately, we don’t call them back.”

Role Models

A trend toward a lack of β€œacceptable” attire stems in part from the classroom, according to Joella Jarchow, a retired elementary school teacher. β€œWalking into my granddaughter’s school, and seeing how casual the staff is dressed, I’d think it would be hard to demonstrate authority, especially when tattoos, shredded jeans, and T’s are the teachers’ choice of attire,” Jarchow says. She remembers that her physical actions changed a great deal after her school announced a more casual dress code for its teachers. β€œThat affected the poise I needed to retain authority.”

The media also influence attire. β€œYouth today are definitely more casual,” says Stephanie Acho-Tartoni, owner of Chocolates by Renee in Northville. β€œThey mimic what [they see] celebrities wear.”

The bottom line? Like it or not, nearly everyone makes quick assessments, β€œso you should be dressed appropriately at all times,” Buccellato says. β€œYou do not know who you’re going to encounter, whether bumping into your next romantic partner or dashing in to drop off a resume at a company.”

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Dress code terminology, appearances, and corporate culture are everything when it comes to success. Here are some tips from the trenches:

>> Dress Up: β€œFor interviews, it’s always better to err on the side of dressing up, which conveys that you are giving the event the respect it deserves,” says Donna Humphrey-DeLosh, a vice president, career, and talent-management consultant at Southfield-based Right Management.

>> Go CIA: β€œDo some intel ahead of time so you know how people in certain positions dress,” Humphrey-DeLosh says. That goes for the already employed who wish to move up the ladder.

>> Be Current: β€œEvery season, choose a particular trend and add it to your wardrobe,” says Linda Curry, a wardrobe/fashion consultant at Saks Fifth Avenue. β€œNot faddish, but current.”

>> Cut the Distractions: β€œAnything you have to fuss with, like pulling down a skirt hem when sitting, will detract from the conversation,” says Patty Buccellato, a Rochester Hills-based image consultant who runs Refined Images. Adds Humphrey-DeLosh: β€œA woman going gray with several inches of hair roots growing out would be contributing to the β€˜distractibility factor.’ And you sure don’t want to be the person with the loud scarf or heavy perfume or cologne.”

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